Musings of a Matriarch

For the past almost six thousand years, within this global patriarchal society in which we all live, women, for the most part, have been little more than chattel property of men, first her father's, then her husband's. Women have lived for millennium in indentured servitude to their men, without rights, without a voice and without influence in the greater community. Women may have only gained the right to vote a century ago, but if truth be told, men are really only in control for as long as women are doing as they're told.

It's clear to anyone paying attention these days that women can pretty much do anything men can do... but should they? Any woman who has worked in a competitive workplace with men knows she must be twice as good as the men just to be accepted as an equal. So the women who rise up the ladder of the Ol' Boy's Club are the biggest ol' boys of them all. Rather than adding a balancing effect of yin to yang, as the cool feminine is meant as a balm to the hot masculine, they tilt the scales further out of balance. How does it benefit a society by having women doing manly things or by holding them back from contributing their special feminine qualities to improve and uplift the collective?

Men and women are two sides of the same coin. One can not exist without the other, yet up until now, our patriarchal society has held the sexes dramatically out of balance. Men, because of their larger physical stature and strength and (alleged) rational thinking process, place themselves in the superior position by subjugating women because of their (alleged) weakness and culpability for the original sin and the fall of man. The biggest insult a man can receive is to be compared to a woman.

Although most women today would abhor to admit this, women are here to take care of men, because frankly, left to their own devices, men would degenerate and fight to self-destruction. Women provide the civilizing element to society. A man can only rise within society with the backing and support of a woman. Good women raise men up and inspire them to be better men, and that's what men need and want from women. That is why men despise 'whores', because their lust and weakness for a scarlet woman brings all men down and debases the love relationship between all men and women.

Men need the support of women their whole lives if they want to function effectively in society. First from his mother, then wife, or girlfriend, or personal assistant. If there is no woman in his life, a man will typically hire a woman to take care of him. Bachelors just need a place to crash until they hook up with a woman. An older man without a woman is a sorry creature.

Marriage was devised by the wisdom of our ancestors for the protection of women, who are the core of the family, which is the foundation of the community. A man can buy a house and father children, but he can't have a home or family without a woman. The concept of family today is quickly being eroded, disabling our society by hacking at the roots of the community.

A single working mom, without the support of a man, trades the time she would otherwise give to her children for money, so she can pay the bills and keep a roof over the kids heads, but no longer has the time to create an effective home or be an attentive mom, and is resented by her children for not being there for them.

What If...?

What if we lived in a world focused on the good of the community, where homes and children belong to women. Residential real estate is no longer a speculative investment. Every house is occupied and the home is owned by the most senior woman in the house. A man leaves his mother's home and moves into his wife's home.

What if housing is provided for everyone and all available houses, condos and apartments are assigned within a co-op.   If you want to move, you list your home as available within the co-op and trade for something else somewhere else.  Men without women live in dorm-type housing or studio apartments designated for men. In common law, possession is nine tenths of the law so no one can be forced out of their homes and no one can occupy more than one house at a time.

What if men and women have separate and distinct roles within the community where the individual is responsible to the community and the community is responsible to the individual.  The women focus on the needs of the individuals within the family and community, and men focus on the protection and improvement of the family and greater community.  A man has a duty to uphold his rights and defend his home and family, but he has a greater duty to uphold the rights of the community and defend all homes and families.

What if there was a coming of age initiatory-type rite for all boys of 13 years where they are trained and then tested on skills they need to perform their duty to society in supporting their community. Boys learn self-defense skills beginning at 7 years old and outdoor survival skills, building and construction skills, emergency response skills, stewardship of land, animal husbandry, agriculture, etc.

What if, as part of the rite, the boys receive a clamped, reversible vasectomy, that comes off when the boy grows to manhood and chooses to commit to a woman and their children. (Imagine all the problems this would solve... no unwanted pregnancies, no abortions, no teen moms, no abused or neglected children.) So rather than a marriage license, the couple gets a family license for a clamp removal.

What if, at the age of 18, all young men and women spend 3 years in a community training program (similar to the Peace Corp or Army Corp of Engineers) to give them practical skills and training, and give them an over view to choose where they want to focus their contribution to community once they come of age.

What if we took back our world from the psychopathic Powers-That-Were who have tried to convince us that their inhumanity must be a part of our humanity, that their greed and selfishness is stronger than our love and compassion. What the world needs now is the balance and guidance of a Benevolent Mother whose all encompassing empathy reaches out to all of her children and saves us from ourselves.

Let it be so.